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25 Jul 2022

Shared custody: an alternative solution

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No place in a nursery and the childminder is too expensive? What if you agree with another family to share a nanny? Advantages and disadvantages of this mode of care.

  • You agree with another family to have your baby looked after by the same nanny.
  • The time of care is shared between your home and the family's home, usually every other week.
  • The hours are adapted to the needs of both families and baby does not lose his bearings, as the care is done partly at home.
  • Each family pays half of the nanny's salary, but be careful, this type of care requires a good understanding between the two families.

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Miranda
25 Jan 2022

I'm new to this app. I would like to introduce myself..just a heads up it is a LONG post (sorry)but I need some advice...i am married but currently separated from my husband due to personal reasons.I have an 8 almost 9 year old son and a 5 almost 6 year old daughter. I have been struggling with both of their behaviors. My son tried killing himself at 5 years old due to bullying, and was diagnosed with ADD/ADHD/ODD. He was on medication but his biological father/father's family had me remove him off of the medication because in their words "you're just trying to kill him" but yet his biological father is on I don't know how many meds for his mental health. My son created a video on his school laptop of him pretending to kill himself. I found the video while going through his photos he took on there as well.. I had asked him about the video and he once again mentioned bullying and said he felt like he didnt fit into our family because I, his mother am the only one who pays attention to him. Also a week or so ago he threatened to his sisters face that he was going to kill her.His biological father/family only see him when it's convenient for them, his father and I have shared legal custody, I have full physical custody and his father has supervised visitation at his parents because he isn't mentally stable and has a drug history. Yes I know I made a bad choice for a father for my child, don't judge me unless you know what I've been through before I was with him. His biological father/family is refusing to allow me to seek medical help (whether it's a child psychiatrist or just a child therapist)for my son and I'm at my witsend with his behaviors. Now with my daughter I kind of have a feeling as to why she's lashing in the way she is with her attitude, smart mouth, and acting like she's on her period is because one she's getting older and two because she sees Mommy and daddy not living together. I have no family, true friends, or even a support system and just don't know what to do at this point.

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Sam
Honestly, if his family is all criticism and don't offer a lick of help, fuck 'em. You do what is best for your child. Now you daughter might be as stressed out from living with your son as you are, but she's young and can't properly manage her emotions yet. Get your son the help he needs. A child psychiatrist is a great place to start, but if he's being bullied at school, what is the school doing about it? If it's not enough, maybe you should try to enroll him somewhere else. Another thing you could possibly try is get him involved with an extracurricular activity that'll boost his confidence. In any case, keep your chin up mama! You're doing the best you can. That's all any of us can do
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Miranda
thank you I really am trying I just feel helpless cause his biological father and family won't let me do what I need to as his mother.
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