What is the role of the father?

If you are dating while pregnant or dating with children, you are definitely looking for a stepfather for these kids. Don't lie and say that you aren't because you definitely are. Otherwise, why date at all if you aren't searching for that magical "one"? Be mindful of who you allow to stay in your life and who you give access to your children. Be mindful of safety and take safety precautions when going on these dates. Be mindful that you will eventually have to allow these men to step into the role of man of the house or father figure if things do get serious. This includes allowing him to discipline your kids. We can't expect a man to take care of us and provide fir the house but then not allow him to be the man and help raise the kids. Not allowing him to fully step into that role is taking without giving. It's entitled and problems will pop up quicker than dandelions in Springtime. If you are not comfortable with him disciplining your kids or being around your kids, you don't need to be dating him. Period.

I’ve been married to my husband for almost two months now. I’ve known he has two other kids but the mother of the kids doesn’t like to let him see them. He’s finally getting to have them overnight for a day this weekend and he doesn’t want me around them. I don’t know how to take this. I understand I’m not the mother to those children, but I did marry their father. And I would like to be present and a positive role model. I just don’t know how to feel about him telling me I can’t :(