Steps to a successful baby shower

So going to miss my baby shower per docs orders when I went in to labor and delivery today. I am ok and baby is okay he just said it would be best to stay close to the hospital cause of the contractions I was having (very small but still early to have them and I would be traveling too) are there any other moms who had they baby shower AFTER the baby lol ?

I’m getting so overwhelmed right now. So I got married at 18 and moved from Michigan to California cause my husband joined the military. We are planning on going back home in a couple days for my baby shower. But on the invite I sent out I said “please do not bring gifts but join us for food and games, if you want to buy us something for baby please ship it out to California for us by clicking on my registry link below, we won’t have room on the airplane to fly everything back, thank you!” And so far only our close family has bought us stuff from our registry. We invited 100 people and I know they all bought gifts and are bringing it to the baby shower. I now have to take a day or two outta the 2 weeks that I have back at home to return everything and get gift cards.. I don’t have time to do that though… I have, a wedding, a birthday party, graduation party, 4 dinner parties, And have to baby sit my nephew for 2 days and my own baby shower to go to in the 2 weeks I’m there.. I’m so stressed out and disappointed that nobody ever listens to me and does what they want. I’m very grateful for the gifts but now it’s just more on my plate and I’m just so overwhelmed..

i don’t know how many weeks should I be for me to take my maternity pictures ? I don’t wanna take them to early nor to late I’m having my baby shower some time in august I’m due Oct 4 so is like some time before my baby shower is that good enough lol I’m not sure which day in august will by baby shower be but I know July 26 I’ll be 30 weeks so like yeah august is a good time right ? When do you all take your maternity pictures ?

Okay can I vent to you guys rq? Ok so I feel uneasy conversating with my big sister/cousin about my pregnancy for one she got jealous after finding out that our mom/my aunt (her biological mother) is hosting my gender reveal/baby shower because when she got pregnant she asked her to throw her a baby shower and didn't even really ask her I remember it like it was yesterday she kinda demanded it as if someone owed her a baby shower after she literally married this man for my aunt to allow him to live with us and sleep in her room at 21 he refused to get a job and work he only wants to sell weed and she was on bed rest so they as a married couple couldn't throw a baby shower and at the time our mom couldn't do much money was tight and we weren't in the best place financially and she still had to take care of my little sister and I not to mention that we were still in school and every school project, every field trip, that money was coming out of her pocket alone so her and my grandma went to the store bought a couple things and gifted them to her along with some balloons and cards in the living room and she was extremely disappointed and ungrateful. She talked shit to me about HER Mom doing something for me when she didn't appreciate what she did for her and I politely corrected her and explained that my boyfriend(the man who got me pregnant?) and I were going to throw our own gender reveal/baby shower and invite everyone else and that momma had came over the other day and as we talked about it she got very excited and texted me later after she got home and asked me if I would allow her to host it and ofc I said yes. This is my mom too, I've never hosted anything like this and I need help and honestly who better to give the envelope to? Who better to pull this event together than her? She's tech savvy, can keep a secret and knows how to host an event unlike my biological mom who struggles with a drug addiction and cannot do either of those things. But my big sister got pregnant and wanted an abortion but she and her "husband" were living with us treating us like shitty servants all day every day and we were raised Christian, so she wasn't going for her first grandchild being aborted all because my sister literally just didn't wanna go through the pain of labor. I want my child I've prayed for my child and I'm extremely invested in the well being and development of my child in every single aspect so when I start talking to her out of excitement about something new happening this week or certain things that I want to do because I've done research and something may be healthier than the traditional way of doing this or that I just feel like she shuts down... She doesn't really know anything about pregnancy like that because she wasn't invested in hers, because she never wanted to keep that experience. And I can just feel the energy whenever I try to have a sisterly talk with her as an excited mom to be/babysister that she feels as if... Idk like who tf does she think she is? Yaknow? ... It's just so draining. Not to mention the fact that I had a miscarriage last year and throughout my pregnancy she kept telling me how sorry she was for me, how bad she felt for me and even bashed me every time I'd reject her idea to terminate my pregnancy and would start telling me things I already knew like my body will never be the exact same and that labor is painful and raising a child is hard(which she doesn't even have to do because her mom is raising my niece while she rides around looking for the girl he's cheating on her with next and taking buses two cities over to spend nights at his place) I literally considered cancelling my party and just opening the envelope with my bf over dinner just to avoid drama and I've told Mom that and she told me not to worry about it and apologized for her behavior and I told her not to worry because if I were in the position she was in I'd be grateful for anything she did.

i’m just sad like if y’all knew me personally and y’all seen how much effort and thought i put into making people feel special it hurts that nobody does that for me … like i’ve never had a baby shower because i put my money into my baby cuz i was a single mother n it looks like i won’t be having one again. i have thrown $5000 or more parties for people out of my own pocket , given money when people lost it all , spent money on trips that i didn’t go on just gifting people to show my appreciation… for people who couldn’t even tell me happy birthday this year .. nobody goes out they way for me except my mother i’m just sad and upset about it i’m not paying for my own baby shower when i can just spend the money on the shit people will bring to a baby shower ! make it make sense !

? my mom called me yelling at me saying why would I make the baby shower aug 20th when I’m due sep 3rd ????‍♀️ she said I did this with the last baby my baby shower was july 5th and I had the baby the 6th ?

Who’s knows any good baby shower games I can play at my baby shower?

Baby shower plans? Pros? Cons? Small, intimate or big baby shower? Debating on this topic.

I had My son premature he weighed 4lbs4onc he was 1 month premature but we went home 3 days after delivery because everything was fine with him. Now being the fact he was here before his baby shower he was actually at his baby shower but everyone that saw him cried because he was small enough to fit in the palm of your hand my ? Is after the third person cried n asked what was wrong with him was I wrong for spazzing out n kicking everyone out the baby shower

If I friends in fresno california I would love have a baby shower if friends who helped me with my baby shower