Raising your child with kindness and understanding

Literally got home from the McDonald's two streets over and got an alert there was a shootout there. New anxiety unlocked boutt raising a child ?

Rant?!! I wish society would stop associating negative connotations of motherhood ( coming from mothers) with mental illnesses like postpartum depression. It's normal to feel like motherhood is not for you, it's normal to be overwhelmed when your child is in distress and you can't figure out what to do, it's normal to cry in the shower because sometimes you feel like giving up, it's normal to want time to yourself, it's normal to not feel like the best mother you can be, it's normal to have one child and decide that DO NOT want more, etcc. All of these feelings are COMPLETELY VALID but society will not allow moms to say that they're tired. Why do these feelings make us mentally ill? Why are men not diagnosed as mentally ill when they decide that they don't want to be in their child's life!!!? The role of raising a child is not meant for ONE person.. LADIES( as long as you're not harming your children) YOUR FEELINGS ARE VALID ❤️❤️.

Okay can I vent to you guys rq? Ok so I feel uneasy conversating with my big sister/cousin about my pregnancy for one she got jealous after finding out that our mom/my aunt (her biological mother) is hosting my gender reveal/baby shower because when she got pregnant she asked her to throw her a baby shower and didn't even really ask her I remember it like it was yesterday she kinda demanded it as if someone owed her a baby shower after she literally married this man for my aunt to allow him to live with us and sleep in her room at 21 he refused to get a job and work he only wants to sell weed and she was on bed rest so they as a married couple couldn't throw a baby shower and at the time our mom couldn't do much money was tight and we weren't in the best place financially and she still had to take care of my little sister and I not to mention that we were still in school and every school project, every field trip, that money was coming out of her pocket alone so her and my grandma went to the store bought a couple things and gifted them to her along with some balloons and cards in the living room and she was extremely disappointed and ungrateful. She talked shit to me about HER Mom doing something for me when she didn't appreciate what she did for her and I politely corrected her and explained that my boyfriend(the man who got me pregnant?) and I were going to throw our own gender reveal/baby shower and invite everyone else and that momma had came over the other day and as we talked about it she got very excited and texted me later after she got home and asked me if I would allow her to host it and ofc I said yes. This is my mom too, I've never hosted anything like this and I need help and honestly who better to give the envelope to? Who better to pull this event together than her? She's tech savvy, can keep a secret and knows how to host an event unlike my biological mom who struggles with a drug addiction and cannot do either of those things. But my big sister got pregnant and wanted an abortion but she and her "husband" were living with us treating us like shitty servants all day every day and we were raised Christian, so she wasn't going for her first grandchild being aborted all because my sister literally just didn't wanna go through the pain of labor. I want my child I've prayed for my child and I'm extremely invested in the well being and development of my child in every single aspect so when I start talking to her out of excitement about something new happening this week or certain things that I want to do because I've done research and something may be healthier than the traditional way of doing this or that I just feel like she shuts down... She doesn't really know anything about pregnancy like that because she wasn't invested in hers, because she never wanted to keep that experience. And I can just feel the energy whenever I try to have a sisterly talk with her as an excited mom to be/babysister that she feels as if... Idk like who tf does she think she is? Yaknow? ... It's just so draining. Not to mention the fact that I had a miscarriage last year and throughout my pregnancy she kept telling me how sorry she was for me, how bad she felt for me and even bashed me every time I'd reject her idea to terminate my pregnancy and would start telling me things I already knew like my body will never be the exact same and that labor is painful and raising a child is hard(which she doesn't even have to do because her mom is raising my niece while she rides around looking for the girl he's cheating on her with next and taking buses two cities over to spend nights at his place) I literally considered cancelling my party and just opening the envelope with my bf over dinner just to avoid drama and I've told Mom that and she told me not to worry about it and apologized for her behavior and I told her not to worry because if I were in the position she was in I'd be grateful for anything she did.

Good morning mamas, how are y’all feeling this morning?..let’s all have a wonderful day, an unbothered day, a stop your self in the mirror and slap you’re own ass day.. cause you a baddie,today tomorrow and the days going forward.. you a woman that walks with her head held high with your grown just right.♥️????☺️ much love, and baby dusT to us all trying. Have a wonderful healthy safe pregnancy for those of us that pregnant, and to the mamas that’s veterans, your doing a wonderful job mamas their is no handbook to raising your child you a super woman a strong woman a solider keep doing a wonderful job♥️?

Is it just me or anybody else go through this go through this raising a child with a spouse but you feel by yourself...

No advice about kids / pregnancy but .. has anyone had problems with their own mother once becoming pregnant/mother? I feel like raising my children is bringing up a bunch of horrible memories of my child hood (not that it was all bad.) but just the bad times, Also me and my mom have argued way more and become so distant since i became a mom. She belittles my issues and tells me basically “just deal with it, ive done it everyone does” etc. i only have hubby for a support system, the rest of my family doesnt help at all, i look at my kids and would do anything for them yet, my mom doesnt look at me in that way. My mom always favored my sister over me, and now shes favoring my daughter over my son, its giving me like PtSD and no matter what i say to express myself its an argument she will not apologize for making me feel this way or any of her actions. How do i deal with this? Has anyone experienced this?